Always choose emotional safety

Be careful who you build relationships with — especially when they lack emotional intelligence.

People without emotional depth can never truly connect with you, no matter how much you explain, express, or open your heart. They will personalize everything, twist your words into attacks, and respond to your vulnerability with defensiveness or silence. Over time, you’ll realize you're speaking a language they simply don't understand. You’ll feel unseen, unheard, and emotionally neglected — not because you didn’t try, but because they were never capable of showing up in the first place.

Be cautious around those who can’t regulate their emotions. You’ll find yourself constantly on edge, waiting for the next explosion, the next mood swing, the next cold shoulder. Their emotional chaos becomes the atmosphere you live in, and your peace gets traded for survival. You’ll become an expert at managing their moods, while your own needs disappear into the background.

Watch out for those with no self-awareness — the ones who hurt you and then get offended when you bring it up. They don’t see the impact of their behavior, so they repeat the same patterns, leaving you to carry the emotional fallout. In their world, everything is someone else’s fault. And eventually, that someone becomes you.

And if they lack empathy — run. Because empathy is the bridge that connects people’s hearts. Without it, there’s no real care, no genuine apology, no emotional reciprocity. You will bleed, and they will watch without flinching.

If no one has ever told you, let me be the one to say this loud and clear:

You deserve emotionally intelligent, self-aware, empathetic people in your life.**

People who listen when you speak.

People who own their behavior and value your feelings.

People who can regulate themselves without making you the punching bag for their bad day.

Without these qualities, no relationship — no matter how passionate or long-lasting — will feel safe or healthy. You’ll end up emotionally exhausted, mentally confused, and spiritually drained.

So please, protect your peace.

Surround yourself with those who are emotionally mature enough to handle their own storms — and kind enough to care about yours.

That’s not asking too much.

That’s called choosing emotional safety — and that choice will change your life.

Xxo Kathleen